{"id":12,"date":"2024-04-04T07:18:32","date_gmt":"2024-04-04T04:18:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/kuidas-kuulata\/"},"modified":"2024-04-09T14:09:49","modified_gmt":"2024-04-09T11:09:49","slug":"kuidas-kuulata","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/kuidas-kuulata\/","title":{"rendered":"Kuidas kuulata?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"sissejuhatus_01.png\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-21\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01.png\" alt=\"sissejuhatus\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/sissejuhatus_01-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\"> <span style=\"color: #28aae1;\">Kuidas kuulata?<\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-20\" title=\"uued_moisted.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted.png\" alt=\"moiste\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\">\u00a0<span style=\"color: #ffd700;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><b><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">T\u00f5husad kuulamisv\u00f5tted ja toetav kuulamine\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>(Bolton, 2007; Davis, &amp; Fanning, 2000; Kutsar, 1996; McCornack &amp; Morrison\u00a02019; McKay, Davis, &amp; Fanning, 2007)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Korrektse m\u00f5istmise saavutamiseks tuleb lisaks kuulamisele kuuldu enda jaoks lahti ka m\u00f5testada ja oma t\u00f5lgendust r\u00e4\u00e4kijal hinnata lasta.\u00a0\u00a0N\u00e4iteks v\u00f5id oma arusaama kontrollimiseks k\u00fcsida:<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u00a0\u201eKas ma sain \u00f5igesti aru, et \u2026 Teie t\u00f6\u00f6s tuleb ette ka selliseid perioode, mil koju j\u00f5uabki vaid puhkamise ajaks?\u201c\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Aktiivne kuulamine on selline kuulamine, kus kuulaja eesm\u00e4rgiks on ennek\u00f5ike r\u00e4\u00e4kija tunnete m\u00f5istmine ja\/v\u00f5i tema teate sisust aru saamine (NB! Kuulamine selleks, et midagi ette v\u00f5tta on juba hoopis teine teema!)<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Samas ei pea iga kontroll algama taolise stamplausega, piisab lihtsalt sinuni j\u00f5udnud m\u00f5tte kordamises (<\/span><\/span><\/span>\u00a0<span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">n\u00e4iteks: \u201eTundub, et see oli p\u00e4ris suurt stressi tekitav olukord?\u201c). Kasutada v\u00f5ib ka julgustavaid mitteverbaalseid vihjeid (vaatan otsa, noogutan, toetavad n\u00e4oilmed) v\u00f5i k\u00f5nelema julgustavaid lausungeid (<\/span><\/span><\/span>\u00a0<span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">n\u00e4iteks: V\u00f5i nii? Mis tunne siis oli? Mida sa selle all silmas pead?).\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"CxSpMiddle\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"CxSpMiddle\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><strong><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">! Et olla efektiivne, peab kuulaja olema kuulamiseks valmis ja tal peab olema soov ning huvi teist kuulata.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/strong><hr><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-20\" title=\"uued_moisted.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted.png\" alt=\"moiste\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/uued_moisted-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\">\u00a0<span style=\"color: #ffd700;\"><strong><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Edukat kuulamist toetab:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Toetav vaikimine.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Silmside loomine ja hoidmine.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Kuulaja roll \u2013 r\u00e4\u00e4gi v\u00e4hem kui see, keda kuulad.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Sobiv mitteverbaalne k\u00e4itumine, sh. avatud kehahoid.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">L\u00f5puni kuulamine (ei\u00a0 katkesta, ega sekku).<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">K\u00fcsimuste esitamine (NB! avatud ja kinnised teenivad erinevaid eesm\u00e4rke). <\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u00dcmbers\u00f5nastamine (kuuldud m\u00f5tte v\u00e4ljendamine oma s\u00f5nadega).<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">H\u00e4irivate tegevuste ja \u017eestide v\u00e4ltimine.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">L\u00fckka edasi hinnangu andmist.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Hoia t\u00e4helepanu.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">M\u00f5tle enne, kui \u00fctled.<\/span><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Peegelda m\u00f5ttes seda, mida sinu arvates taheti \u00f6elda, vajadusel kontrolli arusaama valjusti.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"CxSpFirst\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><hr><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Kuulamise ajal tuleb kuulajal j\u00e4\u00e4da heasoovlikuks, hinnanguvabaks, toetavaks, siiraks, keskendunuks. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Aktiivne kuulamine ei \u00f5nnestu siis, kui endal on tegelikult kiire, sada murem\u00f5tet peas v\u00f5i teine huvitav vestlus taustal k\u00e4imas. Just taolises olukorras kipume kasutama \u00a0selliseid kuulamisviise, mis h\u00e4irivad v\u00f5i suisa taksitavad teisel oma m\u00f5tteid avaldada. N\u00e4iteks v\u00f5ime pruukida t\u00f5rjuvad mitteverbaalseid vihjeid (v\u00e4ldin silmsidet, nihelen, p\u00f6\u00f6ran \u00e4ra) v\u00f5i ka kuulamist\u00f5kkeid.<\/span><\/span><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"> Uksesulgejad on v\u00f5tted, mis l\u00e4htuvad just kuulaja vajadustest (sh. soov otsida kinnitust oma m\u00f5ttele)\u00a0 ja ei toeta k\u00f5nelejat ning teevad seet\u00f5ttu vestlusele kiirelt l\u00f5pu peale. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Allj\u00e4rgnevalt on kirjeldatud erinevaid kuulamist\u00f5kkeid. M\u00f5tle, miks paneb nende kasutamine vestluses \u201eukse kinni?\u201c \u00a0Kui sa ei leia kohe vastust, siis m\u00f5tle sellele, kuidas sina taolise lause j\u00e4rgselt ennast tunneksid ja\/v\u00f5i mida edasi teha tahaksid?<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span lang=\"ET\">\u00a0<\/span><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"ulesanne.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne.png\" alt=\"ylesanne\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\">\u00a0<span lang=\"ET\">Harjutus: Kuulamist\u00f5kked<\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. Hinnangu andmine, sildistamine, diagnoosimine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Hull oled v\u00f5i? Ma k\u00fcll ei saa aru, miks sa selle peale niimoodi reageerisid? <\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Sulle v\u00f5is ju tunduda, et see on hull. Minuga on palju hullemaid asju juhtunud, kui ma\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Nii l\u00e4ks sellep\u00e4rast, et sa\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31b1a9\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31b1a9-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31b1a9-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31b1a9-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31b1a9-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31b1a9-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Iseenda v\u00f5imupositsioonile asetamine, r\u00fcnnak teise enesehinnangule. V\u00f5ib tekitada h\u00e4bi ja sunnib edaspidi kontakti v\u00e4ltima. Keskendu selle asemel n\u00e4iteks emotsioonide peegeldamisele.<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. K\u00e4sutamine, kamandamine, hoiatamine, \u00e4hvardamine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">J\u00e4ta kohe j\u00e4rele!\u00a0 L\u00f5peta vingumine! Kui sa nii j\u00e4tkad, siis sa alles saad.<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31b683\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31b683-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31b683-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31b683-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31b683-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31b683-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Edastab s\u00f5numit, et k\u00f5neleja probleemid on ebaolulised. Tekitab vaenulikkust ja trotsi. Keskendu emotsioonide peegeldamisele. Vajadusel v\u00f5id s\u00f5nastada ka oma emotsioone ja soove tekkinud olukorras Nt. \u201cSee teeb mind \u00e4revaks. Ma soovin, et Sa sellest rohkem ei r\u00e4\u00e4giks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Kiitmine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Sa tegid k\u00f5ik \u00f5igesti!\u00a0 K\u00fcll sa olid tubli!<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31b99c\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31b99c-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31b99c-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31b99c-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31b99c-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31b99c-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Ka kiitmine on hinnangu andmine ja viitab seega hinnangu andja \u00fcleolekule. Lisaks v\u00f5ib kiitus teatud juhtudel tunduda ebasiiras ja seda v\u00f5idakse tajuda manipulatsioonina. Proovi s\u00f5nastada toetusena mitte kiitusena, nt \u201cSa pingutasid k\u00f5vasti\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4. Tagasit\u00f5mbumine, nalja kasutamine, k\u00f5rvale p\u00f5iklemine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u2013 \u201eMul ei \u00f5nnestunud oma eelmise t\u00f6\u00f6andjaga \u00fcldse head kontakti saada.\u201c<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u2013 \u201eOh! Mulle just meenus \u00fcks nali, kus t\u00f6\u00f6andja \u00fctleb, et\u00a0 r\u00e4\u00e4gi uuesti, ma pole sind t\u00f6\u00f6le asumisest saadik kuulanud.\u201c <\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31bd0c\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31bd0c-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31bd0c-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31bd0c-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31bd0c-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31bd0c-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Suunab fookuse probleemilt mujale. Leevendab k\u00fcll pingelist olukorda, aga samas pisendab teise tunnete\/ m\u00f5tete olulisust ja j\u00e4tab mulje, et neid ei soovitagi kuulata ja m\u00f5ista. Kui sul on endal raske kuulata, siis v\u00e4ljenda seda selge mina-s\u00f5numiga\u00a0 nt. \u201cMinu jaoks on see valus teema. Ma pole kindel, et oskan Sind hetkel toetada.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5. Moraliseerimise kasutamine, n\u00f5u andmine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u00d5igesti k\u00e4itumiseks peaksid Sa\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i>\u00a0<\/i><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Mina sinu asemel teeksin n\u00fc\u00fcd nii\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31c046\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31c046-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31c046-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31c046-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31c046-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31c046-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Iseenda j\u00f5upositsioonile panemine, \u00fcleoleku v\u00e4ljendamine. V\u00f5ib tekitada s\u00fc\u00fctunnet ja\/v\u00f5i luua arusaama, et k\u00f5neleja otsustusv\u00f5imet ei hinnata. N\u00f5uanded v\u00f5ivad lisaks takistada iseseisvumist. Kasuta \u00fcmbers\u00f5nastamist, peegeldamist.<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<p><strong>6. Rahustamine, kaasa tundmine, lohutamine<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">Pole hullu, k\u00fcll varsti l\u00e4heb m\u00f6\u00f6da.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\"><i><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 150%;\">\u00c4ra n\u00fc\u00fcd endast v\u00e4lja mine!\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"accordion-block mb-3\">\n\t\t<div class=\"accordion \" id=\"accordion-accordion-69e216a31c385\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31c385-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31c385-collapse-1\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31c385-collapse-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSelgitus\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t<div id=\"accordion-69e216a31c385-collapse-1\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse \" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31c385-heading-1\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"accordion-body\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Pisendatakse teise tundeid (hinnang: sa ei taju olukorda \u00f5igesti, su tunded pole kohased)\u00a0\u00a0ja nihutatakse vestluse fookus hoopis iseenda vajadustele. Rahustamine v\u00f5ib t\u00e4hendada, et kuulaja ei tule tugevate tunnetega toime ja proovib enda jaoks olukorda parandada. K\u00f5nelejale annab see s\u00f5numi, et teda ei m\u00f5isteta. Kui sinu jaoks on emotsiooni raske taluda, siis v\u00e4ljenda seda selge mina-s\u00f5numiga nt. \u201cMa ei oska praeguses olukorras kuidagi edasi tegutseda.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\">\n\n\n\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-23\" title=\"ulesanne.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne.png\" alt=\"ylesanne\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/ulesanne-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\">\u00a0<span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Kui tahad\u00a0 oma kuulamisoskusi veel rohkem lihvida, siis v\u00f5id l\u00e4bi teha harjutuse\u00a0aktiivse kuulamise v\u00f5tete ja kuulamist\u00f5kete m\u00f5just vestluskogemusele.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<p><\/p><div class=\"accordion mb-3\">\n        <div class=\"accordion-item accordion-item--white\">\n        <h2 class=\"accordion-header\" id=\"accordion-69e216a31d81f-heading\">\n            <button class=\"accordion-button collapsed\" type=\"button\" data-bs-toggle=\"collapse\" data-bs-target=\"#accordion-69e216a31d81f-collapse\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-controls=\"accordion-69e216a31d81f-collapse\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><strong> <span style=\"color: #ff0099;\">Harjutus aktiivse kuulamise v\u00f5tete ja kuulamist\u00f5kete m\u00f5just vestlusele<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/button>\n        <\/h2>\n        <div id=\"accordion-69e216a31d81f-collapse\" class=\"accordion-collapse collapse\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-69e216a31d81f-heading\">\n            <div class=\"accordion-body\"><br>\nHarjutus koosneb kahest suurest osast \u2013 kuulaja rolli v\u00f5tmisest ja k\u00f5neleja rolli v\u00f5tmisest. Soovitatav on l\u00e4bida see nii k\u00f5neleja kui kuulaja rollis, sest ainult nii saab vahetu kogemuse \u00a0kuulamist\u00f5kete m\u00f5just kuulamisele ja k\u00f5nelemisele. Abivahenditest vajate koost\u00f6\u00f6valmis kaaslast ja kella v\u00f5i taimerit.\n<p>Vali \u00fcks lugu, mille jutustamine v\u00f5taks aega umbeks 5-6 minutit. Leia\u00a0kaaslane, kes on n\u00f5us kuulama ja p\u00e4rast ka oma lugu r\u00e4\u00e4kima.<\/p>\n<p><strong>K\u00f5neleja rollis <\/strong>olles tuleb lihtsalt viie minuti jooksul r\u00e4\u00e4kida kuulajale oma juttu. Taustateadmised sellest, mida kuulaja teeb ei kahjusta kogemust kuigiv\u00f5rd palju, kuid v\u00f5ivad siiski tavalist jutustamist segada. Proovi oma jutt aja sisse mahutada ja kaaslase reaktsioonidest hoolimata ka l\u00f5puni r\u00e4\u00e4kida.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><strong>NB! <\/strong><\/span>\u00c4ra vali\u00a0liiga isiklikku ja\/v\u00f5i emotsionaalselt valusat teemat, sest vestluse k\u00e4igus kasutatakse kuulamist\u00f5kkeid!<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e4idisteemad puhuks, kui endal midagi p\u00e4he ei tule:<\/p>\n<p>K\u00f5ige \u00fcllatavam hetk minu elus\u2026<br>\nMul on vaja vastu v\u00f5tta otsus \u2026<br>\nMinu ideaalne eluviis\u00a0\u00a0\u2026<br>\nMinu lemmikuim\/vihatuim \u00f5ppeaine \u2026<br>\nInimene, keda ma k\u00f5ige enam austan\u2026<br>\n\u2026<br>\nPeale jutu l\u00f5petamist mt\u00f5le l\u00e4bi mis tunne oli k\u00f5neleda vestluse esimeses pooles ning kas midagi muutus teises pooles? Soovi korral r\u00e4\u00e4gi\u00a0kaaslasega oma kogemusest.<\/p>\n<p>Vahetage rollid \u2013 n\u00fc\u00fcd on Sinu kord kuulata.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kuulaja rollis<\/strong> olles on \u00fclesandeks vestluse esimesel kahel minutil kasutada toetava\u00a0kuulamise v\u00f5tteid, j\u00e4rgmise kahe minuti jooksul rakendada\u00a0kuulamist\u00f5kkeid ning\u00a0 aja piisavusel v\u00f5ib viimastel minutitel j\u00e4lle kuulata aktiivselt. Ajaline jaotus on umbkaudne \u2013 Sa ei pea sekundi pealt kuulamist muutma, aga osakaalud v\u00f5iks pigem paika j\u00e4\u00e4da. Peale kuulamise l\u00f5ppu m\u00f5tle, mis tunne oli kasutada kuulamist\u00f5kkeid? Kas t\u00f5kete kasutamine m\u00f5jutas seda, mida kuulsid?<\/p>\n<table class=\"table table-hover\" style=\"width: 800px;\" border=\"1\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\">\n<thead>\n<tr>\n<th scope=\"col\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-25\" title=\"naide.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide.png\" alt=\"n\u00e4ide\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\"><span style=\"color: #ffd700;\">\u00a0<b>N\u00e4iteid toetavast kuulamisest<\/b><\/span><\/th>\n<th scope=\"col\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-25\" title=\"naide.png\" src=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide.png\" alt=\"n\u00e4ide\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide.png 1080w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/507\/naide-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 40px) 100vw, 40px\"><span style=\"color: #ffd700;\">\u00a0<b>N\u00e4iteid kuulamist\u00f5ketest<\/b><\/span><\/th>\n<\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"CxSpFirst\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Julgustavad mitteverbaalsed vihjed (vaatan otsa, noogutan, toetavad n\u00e4oilmed)<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">V\u00f5i nii\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Mhm..<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Mida Sa selle all m\u00f5tled?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Mis tunne Sul oli?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">See v\u00f5is p\u00e4ris tore\/kole\/\u2026 olla?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Sa olid vist vihane\/r\u00f5\u00f5mus\/hirmul\u2026?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/p><\/td>\n<td>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"CxSpFirst\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">T\u00f5rjuvad mitteverbaalsed vihjed (v\u00e4ldin silmsidet, nihelen, p\u00f6\u00f6ran \u00e4ra)<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Hull oled v\u00f5i?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Ma ei saa aru, miks Sa selle peale vihastasid\/kartma hakkasid\/r\u00f5\u00f5mustasid\/\u2026?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Sa arvad et see oli halb. Mul on palju halvemini l\u00e4inud, kui ma\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Arvad, et ainult Sinul on sellised mured?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"CxSpMiddle\"><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">Ma tean t\u00e4pselt, mida vaja. Sa peaksid n\u00fc\u00fcd \u2026 tegema.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span lang=\"ET\"><span style=\"line-height: 115%;\">\u2026.<\/span><\/span><\/p><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p>\u2026.<br>\nR\u00e4\u00e4kige kaaslasega kindlasti oma kogemustest, et kuulamist\u00f5kete kasutamisest tekkinud ebameeldiv tunne\u00a0kestma ei j\u00e4\u00e4ks.<\/p><\/div>\n        <\/div>\n        <\/div>\n    <\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kuidas kuulata? \u00a0T\u00f5husad kuulamisv\u00f5tted ja toetav kuulamine\u00a0 (Bolton, 2007; Davis, &amp; Fanning, 2000; Kutsar, 1996; McCornack &amp; Morrison\u00a02019; McKay, Davis, &amp; Fanning, 2007) Korrektse m\u00f5istmise saavutamiseks tuleb lisaks kuulamisele kuuldu enda jaoks lahti ka m\u00f5testada ja oma t\u00f5lgendust r\u00e4\u00e4kijal hinnata &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":263,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-12","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/263"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":149,"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12\/revisions\/149"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sisu.ut.ee\/edujategu2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}